Introduction:

God created two different people; men and women. But what makes us different? Were both human beings but individually society has restrain us to have certain interest,appearances, and characteristics just based on our gender. To give a quick example, a women is only beautiful if she has that model appearance, and should stay at home because she solely has to take on the domestic responsibilities in the household. Sadly enough it goes both ways, men should be tough looking, buff, and should be the breadwinner of the household. I mean we all need to face it we are all created equally and should be treated as so. There shouldn't be set out restrictions that you have to look or how to live your life.  The reason I find this topic quite intriguing is for the fact that I recently had a Women Studies class and realized that this is a huge issue living on today.Let's think about it guys women had to fight to even get the right to vote in 1920! Only showing that for a great time in history our voices weren't heard but men's were heard loud and clear.  Even though all these standards and stereotypes of men and women were even worse before, doesn't mean they have stopped in this society. Why have we build this world up to endure these strict double standards? As men and women, we are created equal and should not assume or create standards that each gender should live off by.

Growing up,

Other than what a man or woman should do at home, there are also other double standards that are set because of the way we are raised. These double standards that we portray have managed to affect the way we see other and even reciprocate to our younger generations to believe the same. As for me I think its honestly so unfair and aggrsvating how men have everything so easy in this world! Then you ask men and they completely disagree defensively  thinking that women with our looks can get it all. Touching bases into what I really mean by men having it easy is that fact growing up for a man is far more simple because parents leave them as their own mentors when it comes to living their life. We give the excuse that "boys will be boys" which allows everything they do to be fine! However, since we are young us women, are told to be modest, pure, decent and our sheltered by our parents. While we give the boys the idea that all is well if they are promiscuous. It's just not right! I can completely relate to this growing up being one of two daughters and the rest boys, we were raised in the same house, but my brothers always got a ton of freedom more than I was able to get. This goes with the issue of how girls can get pregnant, but hey lets think about it guys are the ones whom get the girls pregnant! This is only teaching men that everything they do is perfectly fine, and this will never stop because they will raise their children the exact same way! Also another reason why this double standard is completely wrong is that when people are controlled and told what to do and not to do, they rebel am I right? There are many girls out there with tough parents whom try to control there every movement and they end up rebelling against and doing exactly what they were told not. Rules and regulations should all apply to all despite your gender! Another point is parents also have blame on why kids grow up believing that women are domestic takers and men just breadwinners and shouldn't help around the home. If parents raise their kids having the girls do all the house work, the only outcome would be the boys believing that's the only thing girls are made for. As everyone knows the way you set your formation of sons and daughters is the reflections of what they are going to believe and also teach to their own kids. So believing these double standards will only continue the cycle. So people lets be fair and raise them believing that men and women are capable of doing the same thing, shall we?

Men VS Women...Relationships aren't easy

Ideal Boyfriend

Ideal Girlfriend

We have all experienced double standards at different points in our lives. Whether its while your growing up, beginning to date or in your marriage. They are simply the expectations that we have of and from each other as men and women. First and foremost before even getting into the relationship world, one double standard that is just so unfortunate is the fact that appearance becomes so essential now a days. The way that if a man is not Brad Pitt looking, buff and can't pay for your dinner than hes not datable.Men don't fall back in this double standard shallowness either. For a man, a women's body type and great assets are the only thing that matters. Why is it that people just want their significant other to have great looks,and  if that's lacking they don't consider them to be their type? I believe every ones type should be someone who in the inside is amazing rather than the outside, personality and your individual way of being should be matter most. Now when it comes to the relationship world, controversy is super common. Relationships cant get any more complex when per say actions that are unacceptable to men are portrayed in women or vice versa. Double standards in relationships are far more common because when you become a couple these standards are more exploited by each gender. Let's face it boys and girls, we each have completely different aspects and views of relationships! Visiting this website that has men perspective on what the top ten double standards in relationships are, I chose a view that I think both opposing genders live off by the most. The one double standard that I think is most usual is "Men are dysfunctional and women are never satisfied" Girls we know we at times expect to have that unrealistic prince charming or for your man to do everything right. That is the problem is the fact that men are not perfect and neither are you, we need to give them credit, well if they deserve it. We as women cannot always expect more and men need to be more functional and present in a relationship. Frankly, you cannot blame your women for wanting you to be a better lover if your not. If you really think your man is dysfunctional and does not have it all together then you didn't chose the right fella. Point being, both men and women need to know what you really want and need before expecting it from the opposite gender!  Another huge one that I know occurs in many occasions is that "Men must always pay" Now this double standard is quite famous if you ask me I think this one is pretty tough on men! Men are always expected to pay because simply that's just the right thing to do. It's ingrained in both a man and woman's mind that men should always pay or hes not a gentlemen but i think being a gentlemen and fair are twisted in this double standard. I'm saying that yes its fine if he begins taking you out, and offering to pay but as many men can agree we women are expensive! We as women can't always depend on him monetarily or expect him to pay every time. If your going to be in a relationship it should be a 50/50 so if he pays dinner whats wrong with paying for dessert? If you expect your man to pay every time than that can maybe portray you that you just want his money and girls that's not a good attribute. So that double standard needs to be cut off! One last double standard I want to mention is that of how a man's reputation on being with multiple women possibly over a short amount of time or during the same time, hes a "stud". As Jessica Valenti, argues in her book "He's a stud, She's a Slut," that if a women were to even kiss a random guy or decide to be just like a man shes not given a high five and admired for being able to conquer many men. However, completely opposite reaction is that she automatically falls into giving herself a negative reputation of being promiscuous. Valenti states a very important and true point that men simply are never judged as harsh as women when it comes to sexuality.That's simply not okay! These impartial judgments are what cause many problem because if we both have identical behaviors whether your a man or a woman you should have the same reaction from society and be labeled the same.

Value?

Overall, this whole issue of the double standards between men and women all come down to the value we believe each gender has. We treat others by how we believe they should be treated right? Meaning value, plays a huge role in how we treat others. We treat are most valued possessions with great respect, and what means nothing to us not so great. In society, women and men are valued in unfair ways. To think that women only make seventy-six cents of every dollar a man makes is quite astonishing. As referred to in  the article,  "Double Standards Are Just Earnings for Male and Female Workers", Guillermina Jasso argues that management positions are only viewed as high as the glass ceiling for women. Basically meaning folks, that women can only dream of management positions being ( the glass ceiling) but are stuck in the sticky floor meaning regular employee positions. How unfair is this? I mean 76% of every dollar? As I just mentioned it all sums up to how much value is put in each gender in society. Beyond the issue of gender in the workplace, your potential to be a qualified recipient for a job is even sometimes based on your ethnic background and appearance. Shouldn't qualifications for a job be based on your experience, educational background and  good references by your prior jobs? Women are valued as if they cannot do a man's job most of the time but sometimes men are a laughing stock if they get into a field that mostly made up of women. Example: Nursing, is said to be a woman's job and when a man joins the field they assume he cannot do a woman's job. Same goes for women, they can do this they cant do that, their too weak for this job to sentimental for that job. People lets ingrain: value, value, value into each others mind! We all are capable of doing any job and work we wish to, despite our gender! A man can do a woman's job, a woman can do a man's job simple as that. Wage gaps are ridiculous, the value of our work should determine how much we should be paid oppose to if were a man or a woman.

Bibliography

 "Do Double Standards Still Exist?" Free Training. Web. 19 Feb. 2011.

 Focuses mainly on the double standards and stereotypical views opposing genders have in each others in the workplace rather than relationships. It shows how men make more money than woman and woman can only get as far as the glass ceiling and cannot reach management positions very often. Also its shown how we need to stop degrading each other by our gender.

 Fielding, Nick. "Double Standards - AskMen.com." AskMen - Men's Online Magazine. Web. 19 Feb. 2011.

Briefly identifying the top ten double standards in a heterosexual relationship in the perspectives of men. It also discusses the controversial issues between men and women in the dating world, single world and other statuses.

Jasso, Guillermina, and Murray Webster. "Double Standards in Just Earnings for Male and Female Workers." American Sociological Association. Social Psychology Quarterly, 1997. Web. 21 Feb. 2011.

This database on the Cal State Northridge, Oviatt library source analyzes the wage gaps that differ between men and women. Both authors bring up very important points on how the workplace discriminate nowadays towards your age, race and now and especially gender. This article also mentions research that was done to explain the mechanisms of how double standards operate.

Valenti, Jessica. He's a Stud, She's a Slut and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know. Berkeley, CA: Seal, 2008. Print.
Jessica Valenti analyzes how impartiality is the core of double standards in her book. She describes her own personal experiences growing up, and her being a women she shows how women are judged harshly for identical behaviors men have on an everyday bases. Her chapters describe the different standards that both men and women undergo in the course of their lifetime.