We have all experienced double standards at different points in our lives. Whether its while your growing up, beginning to date or in your marriage. They are simply the expectations that we have of and from each other as men and women. First and foremost before even getting into the relationship world, one double standard that is just so unfortunate is the fact that appearance becomes so essential now a days. The way that if a man is not Brad Pitt looking, buff and can't pay for your dinner than hes not datable.Men don't fall back in this double standard shallowness either. For a man, a women's body type and great assets are the only thing that matters. Why is it that people just want their significant other to have great looks,and if that's lacking they don't consider them to be their type? I believe every ones type should be someone who in the inside is amazing rather than the outside, personality and your individual way of being should be matter most. Now when it comes to the relationship world, controversy is super common. Relationships cant get any more complex when per say actions that are unacceptable to men are portrayed in women or vice versa. Double standards in relationships are far more common because when you become a couple these standards are more exploited by each gender. Let's face it boys and girls, we each have completely different aspects and views of relationships! Visiting this website that has men perspective on what the top ten double standards in relationships are, I chose a view that I think both opposing genders live off by the most. The one double standard that I think is most usual is "Men are dysfunctional and women are never satisfied" Girls we know we at times expect to have that unrealistic prince charming or for your man to do everything right. That is the problem is the fact that men are not perfect and neither are you, we need to give them credit, well if they deserve it. We as women cannot always expect more and men need to be more functional and present in a relationship. Frankly, you cannot blame your women for wanting you to be a better lover if your not. If you really think your man is dysfunctional and does not have it all together then you didn't chose the right fella. Point being, both men and women need to know what you really want and need before expecting it from the opposite gender! Another huge one that I know occurs in many occasions is that "Men must always pay" Now this double standard is quite famous if you ask me I think this one is pretty tough on men! Men are always expected to pay because simply that's just the right thing to do. It's ingrained in both a man and woman's mind that men should always pay or hes not a gentlemen but i think being a gentlemen and fair are twisted in this double standard. I'm saying that yes its fine if he begins taking you out, and offering to pay but as many men can agree we women are expensive! We as women can't always depend on him monetarily or expect him to pay every time. If your going to be in a relationship it should be a 50/50 so if he pays dinner whats wrong with paying for dessert? If you expect your man to pay every time than that can maybe portray you that you just want his money and girls that's not a good attribute. So that double standard needs to be cut off! One last double standard I want to mention is that of how a man's reputation on being with multiple women possibly over a short amount of time or during the same time, hes a "stud". As Jessica Valenti, argues in her book "He's a stud, She's a Slut," that if a women were to even kiss a random guy or decide to be just like a man shes not given a high five and admired for being able to conquer many men. However, completely opposite reaction is that she automatically falls into giving herself a negative reputation of being promiscuous. Valenti states a very important and true point that men simply are never judged as harsh as women when it comes to sexuality.That's simply not okay! These impartial judgments are what cause many problem because if we both have identical behaviors whether your a man or a woman you should have the same reaction from society and be labeled the same.
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